Monday, January 16, 2012

Tonight, I refuse to cry.

My head has been a bit of a mess lately. Which is making me act like a crazy person. Seriously having trantums like I am 2 years old. Nit picking at everything. EVERYTHING getting to me. It's really annoying because its ruining all the relationships I have left. Though I did work on a relationship tonight, told her what is actaully going on with me and though she understands where I am coming from now, I feel like it's an excuse which wasn't wasnt my intention. Like just because of this I am acting this way and thats not the case. I dont want to use this as an excuse. So I am beating myself up for even saying anything. I didnt even think about it I mean its been on my mind but when we were talking I was having a trantrum and it just came out. Isn't that what you call a Freudelin (however you spell it) slip? I dont know I mean I know our relationship will never be what it once was but i dont think it is what it has been this past week. I mean I dont feel like she hates me anymore. I talked to her tonight without crying or cutting tonight still going to be taking a break for a little while as I have my issues to deal with and she has hers. Ive been having conflicted feelings, like on top of everything else this was bothering me. Obviously if you read my last post haha. This chicka is like a big sister to me. And I really didn't want to let go. I don't want to. I don't get this close with anyone. really I have only gotten this close with Val (old therapist who had to quit due to her anorexia and me connecting with her so much because "she knew how to do it right") This chick and one other girl...Y'all know who you are. Anyway, enough about that ...

I talked to my old dance teacher tonight, and it reallllly made me miss dance. She was asking about my ED, how im doing. And we were talking about her's. She is doing amazing, and she never went to treatment or therapy or anything, which to me is like a miracle. I mean ive been to treatment. Ive been to hospitals. Ive been in therapy for how many years now? AND still I am struggling. Part of the convo ed decided to jump in: 
    • did you think i was fat then?

  • about an hour ago
    Lisa King
    • No but I knew something wasn't right with you. That was most apparent

  • about an hour ago
    Stefanie Felix
    • how did you know something was wrong?

  • about an hour ago
    Lisa King
    • Because I said something about a costume. I said u needed a small as opposed to an xsmall so u quit. I said it because u were too TALL for an xsmall, regardless of how it was around ur waist.

  • about an hour ago
    Stefanie Felix
    • oh gosh you remember that huh im sorry i took it as im a fatty i seriously thought I was the biggest one there. still something i need to work on i guess.


  •  Dance was something that ALWAYS meant a lot to me. I can't believe I let ed take that away from me because of a STUPID COMMENT. LIKE SERIOUSLY? I remember when she first told me that she has an ed, she cried, and how she talked about it I thought she was lying about it. But tonight how she talked about it I was like shit this is for real. Which sucks but I am so glad that I have one more support person. I mean one who understands. I remember when I told her what was going on, I ended up staying at the studio for a half and hour to an hour after to "help miss lisa close up" When in reality we sat and talked. We got close, but I don't think I every let her in. I mean I shared with her but I was always paranoid that she would say something as this was before college so I never sat down and told my mom that I needed help at this time. So I remember always saying "Don't say anything to..." im sure I was annoying but i think she was the one person at the time who I felt like I could talk to, she was the only one who knew well besides my high school's assumptions. And I think she knew that. I remember one time I was walking out of the studio after ballet class and she said "Hey stef can you stay to lock up with me" Turns out she knew I something was off then too. I remember calling the studio one time, and Miss Lynn answered and I asked Is Miss lisa there, she said yes but she is teaching a class right now. I said will she be able to talk tonight she said YES but she is teaching right now. SO I said Just ask her she will know what I am talking about lol...Then my dance recital. MY BIG DANCE RECITAL. the year I went en point. I remember doing my hip hop routine and as I am coming off stage Miss Lisa runs to me and hugs me and says its my best performance yet though I looked like a ghost with the stage lights on me. Told me I needed to eat. I said I can't. I am nervous and my IBS will get worse if there is food in it...So I went back on stage for ballet and yup...I pass out. I remember we were in a a circle holding the other girls arms as we lifted our legs and I lost my balance and Allie noticed and really grabbed onto me. So the routine was a bit off but I managed to finished and pass out the second I got off stage haha.



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